After much preparation, the day finally came around. Smallest Boy was up, dressed, bag packed with morning tea, lunch and spare clothes, and his hat on by 7.30 this morning. He has been very excited about going to pre-school since we first visited and met The Chickens a few months ago. Pre-school here is similar to Playgroup/Nursery in Scotland - not entirely sure of the equivalent in England. Main differences are that it's not free (obviously a fairly significant difference) and there is little or no option for anything other than full days. My older kids all went to the most gorgeous Playgroup in Scotland 5 mornings a week (for free) for a year and then did the same at the pre-school Nursery attached to the primary school that they later went to. This worked out particularly well as they came home, had lunch and promptly fell asleep for the rest of the afternoon, or until we had to pick someone else up. So far Smallest Boy has one day, which may well become a bit of an issue with regards to settling.
The Big Boys all left to catch their buses to their schools then we jumped into the car to drop Miss M at her school (next door!) and race down to Pre-School. Excitement was running very high at this point. We arrived a wee bit late to avoid the rush and try to achieve the smoothest drop-off possible. His peg has a snake on it which he was pleased about, we put his morning tea and lunch boxes (Toy Story naturally) into their respective containers and went to see what was going down. He did a beautiful painting, checked out the blocks, and said 'Hello' to another wee boy hiding in the house area. We had had a number of conversations about 'Mummy not staying' but as I rightly expected, he hadn't really believed me. It started with the wobbly lip, moved onto the "Mummy stay!", to full-on screaming pretty quickly. With the older sibs I only had one who showed the same kind of separation anxiety shown by Smallest Boy (I remind you of the "Mummy-daring-to-go-to-a-gym-class" incident of a couple of months ago...). I figured it was best to say goodbye, leave and not look back. I could still hear the screaming 3 doors up.
I had arranged to meet a friend for coffee and I'm so glad I did! We chatted for nearly 3 hours by which time all I had time for was to get home, tidy up a bit then go and collect. Being first day, I went a bit early and all was quiet and calm. After lunch, the blinds go down, some children have a nap on mattresses while others chill out to soothing music. Smallest Boy was curled up on the sofa fast asleep and noticeably shaking with occasional sobs. One of the lovely ladies explained that he had cried on and off all day, screamed during the visit of The Music Man and had to be bribed with collecting the hens eggs in the garden to calm down. She also said "He's so cute though"!! When I went to lift him, he was still sobbing in his sleep - how evil did I feel? I nearly burst into tears myself!
Anyway, he got home then spent the rest of the afternoon telling each sibling, as they got home, what fun he had had and how much he loves the chickens! Apparently he wants to go back tomorrow - we shall see how he copes next week...!
With his 'Bestie' at bedtime
Edited to add painting that I couldn't find last night, not realizing that Smallest Boy had alreadyput it on the fridge!
Bless him! I feel for you Sandra but know that you'll both be fine in the end. I will look to you for the same words of wisdom when it's Matthew's turn. xxx
ReplyDeleteSeems that he might have a friend called Sam - who was exactly the same. I am convinced that if I had not been determined Sam would still be at home!
ReplyDeleteAwww this very nearly made me cry! I have been through an almost identical experience just recently, only it is with my first little boy. It breaks your heart to leave them... then once they're back home they can't stop talking about how much fun preschool is! Hope things have settled down nicely for you both now :o)
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